Cary Terra, LMFT

Terra Therapy offers gay and lesbian couples counseling and premarital counseling for same sex couples.

There’s no reason to wait for serious problems to improve your relationship with therapy. Whether you are looking for couple therapy to avoid divorce, or family therapy to improve communication skills, Terra Therapy offers services to meet your needs.

It is rare for couples to reach out for treatment unless they are desperate, and therapy becomes a last ditch effort before breaking up. Same sex couples face many unique challenges, and can benefit immensely from relationship “tune-up” work, to prevent communication break-down and separation.

When you and/or your partner notice that you are fighting about the same thing over and over again without reaching a resolution, you may want to seriously consider couple therapy. When tension underlies every interaction, seeing a professional to help you talk to each other can be a very good idea.

Specializing in Gay and Lesbian Couples Counseling, Premarital Counseling for Same Sex Couples.

How can Cary Terra, LMFT help your relationship?

Unlike individual therapy, a couple therapist needs to set ground rules so that each person has time to speak without interruption. The therapist needs to be active and skilled to keep the treatment from dissolving into the same kind of communication the couple has at home. This can be enormously helpful for people who don’t feel heard or tend to suppress their own feelings to avoid conflict. Cary Terra, LMFT has extensive training in couple therapy, family therapy and marriage and family therapy.

While many relationship issues that can emerge in lesbian and gay male couples are not significantly different from their heterosexual counterparts, the details can be quite unique, such as:

• Effects of internal and external homophobia
• Adoption and insemination: children, in general, bring up a variety of issues heterosexual couples do not share
• Coming out: there are inherent problems when one person is not out and the relationship is kept secret
• Family issues: parents, children, extended family, family of choice
• Differences regarding sex-roles in gay vs. heterosexual couples

How can couple therapy help?

The work of couple therapy is to recognize our own part in the dysfunctional communication and take steps to improve it.

One of the important goals of couple therapy is to improve communication skills. Cary Terra, LMFT helps couples strengthen listening skills – often just a few exercises and can make major changes in how a couple relates.

If you want to change the cycle you’re in, establish new patterns and explore new levels of intimacy, you can. Cary Terra can help you. If you’re interested in a skills-based, non-judgmental, non-biased approach, Terra Therapy may be right for you. Please call for a free, 10-minute phone consultation.

Whether you’re looking for help in avoiding divorce, strengthening you connection or separating amicably, it’s never too late to explore gay and lesbian couples counseling, premarital counseling for same sex couples.